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LJI 8: First-World Problem
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When I read this topic, I really wanted to make fun of myself. I wanted to snark all over the various whinings and complaints I've made over the past year: "Wahhh, we're living on Unemployment!" "Wahhh, we have to live in my in-laws' condo in Florida when all my friends & family are in NY!" "Wahhh, I just had to spend a huge chunk of my savings to move my belongings from one state to another!" All of these were legitimate causes for complaint, but most definitely lend themselves to reminders of how much better we still had it than so many other people - even other first-worlders.

However, as I think about it, only one thing keeps coming to mind - the thing I've been focused on for most of my waking hours (and several of the sleeping ones) since the decision was made: the situation of my son's education. My last Idol entry was about making the decision to remove my son from his previous preschool.

Solving this dilemma has only opened the door to several other, related-but-different dilemmas:

1. Telling him about our decision. So far, we haven't. Today would've been his first day back, and he didn't ask any questions at all about why he was staying home with Mommy instead of going back to school. (This is probably an advantage of taking him out right after vacation - it just meant his routine wasn't going back to what it was, instead of a brand-new disruption.) Until he asks, or we have a solution (whichever comes first), our decision is to hold off on any explanation. I'm not entirely comfortable with the lies of omission, but it seems the best way to keep his world as "normal" as possible.

2. Finding a new preschool. He's only 3 and not fully potty-trained yet. Both of these limit our options, and make things more expensive than if he were older. There *is* another Montessori we're interested in, but it's a lot more expensive than the old school was. However, they do offer financial assistance, *and* they're looking for an office assistant... so I'm hopeful something can be worked out. If not, I'm sure there's another good option out there somewhere, but it's going to be difficult (but not impossible) to find everything we're looking for, at a price we can afford.

3. Being a solo-SAHP again for the first time since summer '09. This makes me nervous, I admit. However, today was our first day, and it wasn't a disaster - even though I'm underslept and hormonal. We'll just take it one day at a time, until the solution arises.


All-in-all, there are a lot of worse problems we could have. There are a lot of worse problems we *have* had over the past year-and-change. But even those problems were certainly "first world problems," and by definition not as bad as some folks have it. Still, we play the hand we're dealt. Right?

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First world lives have importance too, and your child's well being is justly of high importance to you.

Best of luck!

"Still, we play the hand we're dealt. right?"

Exactly!

I hope things work out for you!

Well done. I think your child's stability is very important. I believe you are doing the right thing. Good luck on the job hunt and I hope you find and can get your son into a good pre-school.

Ooh! The second Montessori looks like a good bet, especially if you can snag the office assistant position, too.

Good luck! I hope it all works out. It sounds like you are great parents so I am sure you will figure out the right thing for your kiddo.

Here's hoping you find a good resolution to this!

I enjoyed that you gave us an update and it fit the topic just fine. Things will work out for the best. You are a good mom!

*fingers crossed* it all works out well.

I hope things work out for you and your son.

As I wrote in my own entry, I dislike the labeling of things as "first world", "third world", etc. A problem is a problem, no matter to whom it belongs and to that person, it's pretty darned important. I would imagine any parent worries about the education of a child and providing for that child.

Nice peice here. What seems big to us really isn't. But it is big when you are the one going through it. Really like this.

After reading your last entry, I can see why you made the choice you did. I think it's a universal desire to do what is best for one's children (at least among good parents), and you are doing that, as hard as it may be. Best of luck.

*hugs* Just take some time and you'll see what's best for your family. I know you're going through a lot right now and I'm here if you need me!

Good luck with the search!

Where to send a child for preschool is never an easy choice.

And my first two kids were still not fully potty trained at age 3 and that makes it difficult.

IT WILL COME. I promise. It seems it never will but it will.

I hope you find a school solution that works for you. SAHPing isn't easy.

Good luck!

Good luck finding your kid better accommodations! It really is hard when you can't afford it.

What is a "solo-SAHP"?

Comparatively, it may be a first world problem, but that doesn't mean it's not an actual problem. I'm wishing you well and hoping you find a happy resolution soon!

I hope everything works out for you!

You seem like a caring and involved parent. Your son is lucky!

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